Now that we have laid the groundwork for what worship mentoring is and what it looks like, we are going to look at five practical tips that will help you succeed as a worship mentor. As you are worship mentoring, make sure to follow these steps in each of your relationships.
In most cases, people may not come up to you and asked to be worship mentored – at least at first. For this reason you should actively look for someone to mentor, and once you have identified them, invite them to get together. This may sound uncomfortable, but you would be surprised at how many people would love to be worship mentored. This could be someone who is new to a worship team, or maybe someone who is not yet a worship team member, but wants to be.
Ephesians 4:16 (NIV) From Him (Christ) the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
Ultimately, you want to worship mentor to build up your ministry, which will build the Kingdom of God. As we do our part in worship mentoring those in our ministries, God will be with us and help our ministry flourish. So don’t be afraid to invite someone into a worship mentoring relationship.
This is arguably the most important tip, because if you’re not modeling what it looks like to be a follower of Jesus in the context of being on a worship team, chances are the person/people you are going to mentor will pick up on that real fast. You can’t lead someone where you have never been. Make sure that you are “living what you are preaching” while mentoring. You don’t have to be perfect or have it all together, but you need to be growing in your relationship with God and walking in integrity.
Proverbs 10:9 (ESV) Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.
Don’t feel like you have to be make your teaching overly complicated and involved. Focus on the two main areas in worship mentoring: attitude and musicianship. Using the FLEX method and tools available at pursueGOD.org/worship, you should be able to keep your teaching on track and clear. All of the conversational articles and videos are grounded in scripture.
1 Timothy 3:16-17 (ESV) All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.
Just as we are going to be imparting wisdom to the people we are mentoring, they will also impart wisdom to us. It is because of this that we need to make sure that we are not doing all of the talking.
Proverbs 18:2 Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions.
You as the mentor could do everything possible, but at the end of the day, you have to trust that God’s plan is higher than our plan. Don’t get discouraged if your mentoring relationship is not going how you want it to; instead, pray that God would work in the situation. All you can do is your part.
Psalm 37:5 (ESV) Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Personally order the five steps above from most important to least important. Explain why you have ordered them this way.
- Would you feel comfortable approaching someone about mentoring? Why or why not?
- Why is it so important to model what you are saying?
- What is the FLEX Method? How would using it help you mentor someone?
- Would you consider yourself to be a good listener? What are some things that you can do while mentoring to make sure you aren’t doing all of the talking?
- Describe a time when you were frustrated or disappointed with someone who didn’t meet your expectations, even though you had done your part.
- Which of these steps is the hardest for you? What are some steps you can take to grow in that area?
- Identify someone within your worship ministry that you could mentor, as well as someone that could mentor you.
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.