To build an infrastructure for developing a discipleship culture in your church, you’ll need to learn how parents fit in. The local church is the hope of the world; the family unit is the hope of the local church.

Parents are pastors in their homes

Pastors in the local church can’t shepherd kids and teens in each home, nor was it intended to work that way. Pastors are equippers of parents, and parents are the spiritual leaders at home.

Colossians 3:20 Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.

Pastors must be committed to marketing this truth to parents

In today’s culture, many church attenders are consumers. Pastors need to teach them a better way to view their faith and their church involvement. Like any marketing campaign, it’ll take time and effort to convince your parents that they need to get in the game and lead at home.

Marketing this truth will frustrate parents if they’re not equipped

Make spiritual leadership difficult, and they’ll try it for a week or two. Make it do-able, and they’ll keep doing it for the long haul.

Equip your parents through your Kids Church ministry

Start at church, take it home – that’s how our resources are designed. Our online resources are designed to help you equip parents to lead through better conversations.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. Estimate the number of families that come to your church on an average weekend. Estimate the number of those families that pray or read the Bible regularly.
  4. Do you view yourself as a pastor at home? What would your kids say about that?
  5. What’s your reaction to the idea of “marketing” the parents in your church? No matter what you call it, why is this an important task?
  6. Why don’t most parents view themselves as pastors in the home? What have you tried to do in the past to encourage discipleship at home?
  7. Make a list of specific ways to equip your parents to be pastors at home. (Check out our free Kids Church curriculum to learn how we do it.)
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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